The Power of Encouragement

David Schlosz • February 3, 2025

How a Few Words Can Change a Life

Encouragement is one of the most underrated but powerful forces in our lives. Whether it comes from a teacher, a friend, a coach, or even from within, a few simple words of belief can be the difference between giving up and pushing forward.

Why is encouragement so impactful? Why do words like “I believe in you” or “You’ve got this” have the power to transform our mindset? In this post, we’ll dive into the science behind encouragement, real-life stories that prove its power, and practical ways to incorporate more encouragement into our daily lives.


The Science of Encouragement


You may think encouragement is just about making people feel good, but research shows that it goes much deeper than that.


A 2023 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology revealed that people who receive encouragement during difficult tasks experience an immediate increase in motivation, confidence, and performance. Why? Because encouragement activates the brain’s reward center, releasing dopamine—the same chemical that makes us feel good after eating chocolate or achieving a goal.


In other words, when someone encourages us, our brain responds by saying, “Yes! Keep going!” This explains why encouragement is so effective in helping people push past struggles and stay committed to their goals.


Another key piece of research comes from Dr. Carol Dweck, the psychologist behind the growth mindset theory. Dweck found that people who receive encouragement focused on their effort rather than their abilities are more likely to embrace challenges and persist through difficulties.

For example, consider a student learning math. If they hear, “You’re so smart!” they may assume intelligence is fixed—so if they struggle, they might give up. But if they hear, “I love how hard you worked on that problem” they learn that effort leads to success, making them more likely to persevere.

And it’s not just students who benefit from encouragement. A Harvard Business Review study (2022) found that employees who regularly receive positive reinforcement from their managers are 30% more engaged and productive than those who don’t. Encouragement creates an environment where people feel safe, valued, and motivated to contribute.


Real-Life Stories of Encouragement Changing Lives


Let’s look at some real-world examples that prove just how powerful encouragement can be.


1. The Leicester City Underdog Story (Sports)

In 2016, Leicester City shocked the world by winning the English Premier League title against 5000-to-1 odds. How did this underdog team pull off one of the greatest upsets in sports history? Their manager, Claudio Ranieri, believed in them when no one else did.

Instead of focusing on mistakes, Ranieri constantly reminded his players of their growth. He told them:

"You’re improving every day. Focus on the next match, the next goal. You are capable of greatness."

This belief translated into confidence, resilience, and ultimately, a championship-winning team. Their story proves that sometimes, all people need is someone to tell them, “You can do this.”


2. The Story of Mrs. Thompson and Teddy Stoddard (Education)

Teachers have an incredible ability to change lives through encouragement, and one of the most touching stories is that of Mrs. Thompson and Teddy Stoddard.

Teddy was a struggling student, quiet and withdrawn. Many teachers had written him off as a lost cause—until Mrs. Thompson took the time to learn about his background. She discovered that he had lost his mother and was facing extreme difficulties at home.

Instead of giving up on him, she chose to encourage him every single day. She praised his effort, noticed his improvements, and reminded him that he could succeed.

Years later, Mrs. Thompson received a letter from Teddy, who had become a successful doctor. In it, he wrote:

"Thank you for believing in me when no one else did. Your encouragement changed my life."

This is the power of encouragement—it can take someone from feeling invisible to realizing their full potential.


3. Google’s Project Aristotle (Workplace)

Encouragement isn’t just for students and athletes; it plays a crucial role in the workplace, too.

Google conducted a two-year study called Project Aristotle, where they analyzed what made their most effective teams succeed. The most critical factor? Psychological safety—the feeling that it’s okay to take risks, make mistakes, and express ideas without fear of judgment.

And what created this safety? Encouragement.

Teams where leaders and colleagues encouraged each other to share ideas and take creative risks outperformed all others. This proves that encouragement fosters innovation, trust, and productivity—qualities every workplace needs to thrive.


How to Practice Encouragement in Daily Life


Now that we know why encouragement matters, how can we incorporate it into our everyday interactions? Here are four practical steps:

1. Be Specific and Genuine

Instead of saying, “Good job,” try:
“You handled that presentation so well! Your points were clear and engaging.”
“I love how much effort you put into that project—it really shows.”

Specific encouragement is more meaningful and helps people see their own strengths.

2. Praise Effort, Not Just Results

Remember Dr. Dweck’s research? Focusing on effort helps people stay motivated. Instead of saying, “You’re so talented,” say:
“I can see how much work you put into this. Keep going—you’re improving every day!”

This encourages a growth mindset, making people more resilient in the face of challenges.

3. Be a Mirror of Strength

People often forget their own capabilities. Your encouragement can be the reminder they need.
“You’ve overcome tough times before, and you’ll get through this too.”
“I believe in you because I’ve seen you rise above obstacles before.”

4. Encourage Yourself, Too

Encouragement isn’t just something we give to others—it’s something we should give ourselves. Pay attention to your self-talk. Instead of, “I’m failing,” try:
“I’m learning and growing. Every challenge is making me stronger.”

Self-encouragement builds resilience and keeps us moving forward.


The Ripple Effect of Encouragement



Encouragement is contagious. When you encourage someone, they feel inspired to encourage others, creating a ripple effect of positivity. Imagine a world where more people uplifted each other, where encouragement replaced criticism, and where we all believed in each other’s potential.

This week, I challenge you to be an encourager. Whether it’s a colleague, a friend, a family member, or even a stranger, take a moment to say:
“I see you. I believe in you.”

And don’t forget to encourage yourself, too. You never know—your words might be the spark that changes someone’s life.


Final Thoughts


Encouragement is more than just words—it’s an act of kindness, a boost of confidence, and a force for change. It doesn’t cost anything, yet it has the power to transform lives.


So let’s make encouragement a habit. Let’s be the people who remind others of their strength. Let’s believe in each other, support each other, and lift each other higher.


Because sometimes, all it takes is a few words to turn doubt into confidence, failure into perseverance, and dreams into reality.


Who has encouraged you in your life? Share your story in the comments—I’d love to hear it!


If you found this post valuable, share it with someone who needs encouragement today.

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